As we age funerals become more common in our lives. Many boomers have already lost their parents or are facing that possibility in the next few years. Some of us have lost dear friends as well.
Trends for funerals, these days, are moving away from the traditional and incorporating some of the new ideas that technology and the internet affords. (iSeniorSolutions) Although planning your own funeral might sound a little morbid and certainly may not appeal to anyone on a bright summer day, perhaps while we are anticipating visits with our children over the summer vacation time, it might be just the right time to give it a little thought - especially being clear about what you don't want!
Musical tributes have become much more customized to the deceased's preferences and have moved away from the traditional hymns for many. I did some quick research to see if I could find music I might want at my funeral - representing my philosophy on life, perhaps, or just a few favorite songs. I thought about the fact that I wouldn't be there to enjoy the performance but maybe my children would connect with a sense of who I was over the years and certainly my friends could nod their heads to the beat. Music can also reflect the loss felt by those attending. There are actually websites with lists of popular choices. Google never ceases to amaze me when it comes to these things. I contemplated some Beatles tunes, teared up a little with some country and even listened to some rocking blues before becoming overwhelmed with the whole idea! Here is one link you can check out for yourself.
Funeral Music and Poetry Ideas
Burial options have transitioned and cremation has become more and more popular. I joked with my kids about having my ashes divided equally between all four of them so they could do what they want with me. I envisioned them each choosing a special place to scatter my ashes where they could return to on Mother's Day each year. They all reacted with various renditions of "OOOO" not wanting to really take anything home with them. With that in mind, I really liked the Plant a Tree idea for what to do with the remains after cremation. Or, if scattering, then building a cairn - of course, that would mean scattering me in the Rocky Mountains! There are others in this link as well (just avoid the environmentally negative ones like releasing balloons or launching lanterns).
Memorial Service Ideas
There are some evolving, edgy alternative burial choices now moving from obtuse to mainstream, natural to green. See links below. The idea of Eternal Reefs sounds like an interesting idea. I have included a site that talks about Green Funerals as well.
So enough said! I have about forty more songs to listen to before I can get even close to deciding, but do your family a favour - plan ahead!
For many personal reasons, I think my winner is.....